To be nobody but yourself in a world that’s doing it’s best to make you somebody else, is to fight the hardest battle you are ever going to fight. Never stop fighting. – E. E. Cummings
I received a book as a gift called “The little book of wisdom for fine young men”.
This is the first page of the book and was a great first message to start with.
Something I often struggle with in life is the balance between who I want to be, who I am at my core, and who I am being right now.
We all have passions that we want to pursue, sometimes multiple things.
People always tell you as a child that you can grow up to be whatever you want to be. As an adult, we start to realize that it’s not as easy as it sounds. If what you want to be doesn’t provide a steady income, it’s going to be real hard to pursue that while also living what we consider a ‘normal’ life.
Having your own place to live, your own car, power bill, internet, water, food, pets. All of these things are not necessary for a satisfied life, but are certainly the ‘norm’.
In order to find the income to obtain these things and give you the freedom to then do what you want, we most often get a ‘job’ doing something else. Something that is not in line with our true desires.
To get these jobs we have to do the right things, say the right things, and fit a certain mold that will allow others to see us in a light that makes them trust us. This person we are being to gain this trust may be most of who we are, but is often not exactly who we are.
What has to be done so that we can fully realize ourselves and then fully realize our dreams?
In my life, I wear many different hats. In the professional world I am a business owner and we are very good at building websites. Every business needs a website so you would think this is a great business to be in.
I’m also a musician. I’ve been playing music and messing around with websites for almost the same amount of time in my life. I love both of them.
Where I get stuck is even though I would much prefer to spend more of my time in the music world, I end up spending most of my time in the website world. The main reason has been due to it ‘appearing’ to be much easier to raise the capital I need to live the life I want to live by helping people build websites.
In fact what I am coming to find out is that the struggle is equally as difficult as anything else.
What typically happens is I spend the majority of my time helping other people build their business. In return I end up with very little time of my own to work on my projects, and just enough money to keep living the lifestyle I have now.
The amount of time and energy that is spent playing the game of ‘business’, showing a certain face(not saying I want to wear sweatpants and lounge around the house all day but there is most certainly a physical and mental appearance that is expected when being in a ‘professional’ environment), could easily be spent progressing in any other focus and most likely see the same returns financially.
I feel like myself each and every day regardless of what I am doing. That said, if we had everything we needed to keep from spending the majority of our time helping other people realize their goals, and instead spent that time on our goals, I believe we would act more like ourselves and lead much more powerful lives.
It’s never too late, never stop fighting.